5 Ways to Be Present in a Busy Relationship

Busy Relationship

My husband and I have been married just under one year, and yes, we would technically still be considered newlyweds. Ummm…newlyweds in a busy relationship.

“People”: But you guys are newlyweds. You guys should find it sooooo easy to be present and intimate in your relationship.

Us: *share guilty look* 

I don’t know about you all, but my husband and I are pretty booked and busy. We do not get a lot of free time, but we do try to make sure that we are present in each other’s lives and create meaningful moments. So let’s talk about how we accomplish that.

Plan and Prioritize Time Together

My world runs on a schedule like I am sure most of your days do, and I know how easy it is to put things on the back burner if they fail to fit into our busy schedules. I mean hey, we are only human right?

But for relationships to continue to flourish, creating space in our schedules for quality time MUST be a priority. So just as much as I plan and prioritize my daily agenda, I have to do that with my husband in mind. Our relationship is a priority and that means spending time in each other’s presence to continue to cultivate its growth.

Try to plan things that you and your significant other can look forward to. My husband and I actually have a weekly standing date. Every week after bible study we go out to dinner together. It’s not huge, or elaborate. It’s just US, and yes that is just enough.

 

Get Rid of Distractions

Put your phone up! I don’t know how many ways I can put this. Just do it.

Our generation has so many things vying for our attention every moment and 99.9% of those things are connected to our phones. Give your significant other your undivided attention. I promise that whatever is on your phone will be there later.

 

Create Quick Connects

So I just talked about putting our phones away, but when you and your significant other are apart don’t forget you can still connect to them. A quick phone call or cute “love note” via text can go a long way. I can not help but smile when I look down at my phone and see my husband’s name pop up on the screen. I am sure he gets a similar feeling of joy when I text him “Hey Boo..”

I also love the days when my husband comes and surprises me at work. And it always helps when he brings me food. Does that count as a love language? LOL. These small moments make such a big impact on our relationship and are quick and easy ways to show that you care.

 

Skin to Skin

No, I am not trying to be sexually explicit or lewd, but there is so much to be said about the power of touch. When given lovingly and intentionally, so much emotion can be shared.

I kiss my husband daily. Yea that seems like a no-brainer, but it was something that I noticed I began to skip over doing when we started living together. One day I woke up and realized I missed these small intimate moments so I made a promise to myself that I would “get that old thang back”. Hee hee. Get it? 

As a resident, I typically leave for work before my husband and return home well after him. Ohhh such is life! But regardless of this, now I wake my husband up every morning to kiss him goodbye and greet him with a kiss when I get home. Sometimes he mumbles “have a great day” and rolls over to go back to sleep, but sometimes he wakes up and has some morning tea with me which I adore.

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Give Gratitude And Appreciation

Tell your significant other THANK YOU. Yes. Just a simple thank you. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. When my husband washes dishes or takes out the trash, I am sure to tell him thank you and he does the same for me.

Is it because the things we are doing are out of the norm or extraordinary? No, but our love is extraordinary. I mean it has to be for us to commit to each other forever so why not regard it as such. I appreciate the extraordinary love in my life that allows someone to be present and appreciate the “normal” things I do in their life.

 

Relationships are not easy and my husband and I are not perfect, but we are making it work and that’s what matters. Comment below if you have tried any of these and let me know what you think!

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xoxo Oma N. 🙂

25 Replies to “5 Ways to Be Present in a Busy Relationship”

  1. Love this. Thanks for sharing and being transparent! I’ll def take some of these tips when my time comes.

    1. Thank you! Glad I could help 🙂

  2. This post is so relevant and right on time! Being super busy can lead to a disconnect if not managed properly. I think these five things hit the nail on the head. I know I have been guilty of letting too much time go by without being “present”. We are working to do better. Thanks for the encouragement!

    1. Girl you ain’t never lied. Relationships cannot be passive and if we don’t pay attention that will happen.

  3. Being self-employed and my partner working for a huge company sometimes gives me not as much time with him as I’d wish. However, we try to go away together often. I catch myself working during that time as well, but I’m really trying to minimize that when vacationing!

  4. We are big on making dates with one another. IT keeps us close and is always like a reset button on the relationship.

    1. Yes! Dating should never stop!

  5. While I am not in a relationship I do understand where you are coming from in regards to having such a full on schedule. But I like what you said about prioritizing time and making time for each other through weekly dates. And its so important to show that you are thinking about them even when you are away from them.

  6. As you rightly said, we need to be in this together as a couple. Need to sort out the schedule or else time will stretch you apart!

  7. I love the part about putting the phone down and just being in the moment with your significant other. Very powerful. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Girl I swear my phone is attached to my hand sometimes. I gotta remind myself lol. And thank you!

  8. These suggestions are great! we do get lost in our busy lives and having time together is so important to maintain a relationship. love these 🙂

    1. Aww thank you! Glad you loved them.

  9. These are some wonderful tips to keep the spark alive in any relationship. I do believe in quick connects, as you shared. We’ve been married for 5+ years and we made it a practice early on to kiss good morning and good night, it definitely works. 🙂

    1. Whoop! Whoop! It’s the little things. 🙂

  10. It’s very important to be present in a relationship to not make your partner feel as if he or she’s alone. Time is definitely something that you should invest on. These tips are perfect!

    1. Yes! I did not get in a relationship to feel lonely. Lol.

  11. I totally agree, sustaining the fire in a couples relationship is very essential. No matter what our situation or career is we should set aside time for our chosen love one.

  12. Great article. Life is so busy, and there are so many distractions. You really have to purposely set that time aside for all relationships.

    1. Yep! having things in common always helps!

  13. My boyfriend and I always plan stuff to do together on weekends because we are usually busy during the week. The good thing is we both like similar things so we manage to make it work even with busy schedules 🙂

  14. It is so vital in any relationship that you set aside and make quality time for one another.

  15. Touch is such an important thing when it comes to connection. It is incredibly vital. And yes putting the technology away helps you to connect.

  16. Blair villanueva says: Reply

    You hit the point! Even during busy days, we must prioritize our relationships. Me and my partner are currently in LDR but we make sure we call/text each other everyday. At least via online, we still keep connected. And long weekends are our favorites, thats the time we spend time together like honeymooners.

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